Last week over a period of two days I unfriended most of my Facebook people.
I went from 300 people I know the names of to 30 people I know. Immediate family, friends. A handful of online people I know from the pre-social web days.
Easier To Share
- Sharing with the core is easier when there’s nothing but the core.
- I wanted to go from having to filter whom I post to, to sharing family news and photos without a second thought.
- While I can share and exchange anywhere else with any setup, for many sharing == Facebook. I have to be here for and with them.
Relations consume time, attention, affection. Of each I have a finite amount. Where should I best invest it?
Besides the question What’s the return of a Like on status update of someone I only know by name I increasingly realized; who cares?
There’s a difference between the reaction of my mother and you when I show you both a photo of me holding a baby.
There is a level of caring for that directly influences the level of caring about.
Lifetime is really precious and I need to use it as genuine, relaxed, and joyful as I can; the relationships I live need to be real.
It Was Strangely Difficult
Weird but true.
Sometimes I clicked away a name and it was a Name, you know? Someone who is someone in the industry. And for a moment it made me feel like "there goes a valuable contact" or "I could be considered important merely by association, merely by the fact that this Person has friended me back".
I don’t want to be that guy, want to be way beyond all that, super mature and such, but there it was; a pang of oi…
Other names were hard to click away because it felt like ending an era, ending a period in my life.
But The Result
For the first time in a long time I go with real fun and joy to Facebook where I know I’m meeting with my clan. It’s a smaller place but it will do.
Elsewhere my social web is different.
Twitter is my public network although there too I trim. I share differently there too.
I’m rearranging my abode at Google+ Plus, liking the place quite a lot. Less of a water cooler than Twitter it’s a place where I look far beyond the SEO industry I work in.